Two Strangers Trying Not to Kill Each Other is a profound, unflinching and tender documentary portrait of the marriage between 84-year old photographer Joel Meyerowitz and his 75-year old wife, Maggie Barrett, who works as an artist, writer and therapist. Co-directors Manon Ouimet and Jacob Perlmutter film Joel and Maggie at their NYC apartment and at their home in the Tuscany countryside. Even without talking-head interviews, archival footage or scenes with their family members, the audience still manages to learn the basic exposition of how they met, what kind of work they do and their past relationships before the film gets deeper and also a bit heavier in terms of the topics that they couple raise.
      Maggie seems more emotionally mature than Joel at times, especially because of how she articulates her emotions better than he does and shows more signs of introspection, but he's not a bad person. It's empowering to watch her stand up for herself when she feels like Joel is neglecting her emotionally and not truly listening to her, i.e. when she asks him to move to another room to have a phone conversation, and he snaps at her that his call is more important. He claims that he misunderstood what she was saying, though, but she still feels hurt and expresses that to him afterward. In one of the film's most heavy scenes, Maggie shares her thoughts and feelings about the aftermath of her dying first vs him dying first. She has been through a lot and overcomes many adversities throughout the years. She recently suffered a fall and broke her femur before getting diagnosed with osteoporosis. The camera doesn't shy away from showing her physical and emotional struggles as well as her arguments with Joel and their conversations in bed. Don't be surprised if you feel like a voyeur who's prying into the private lives of these two strangers who, by the end of the film, feel less like strangers and more like good friends who aren't afraid to be candid, vulnerable and introspective right in front of you. At a running time of 1 hour and 40 minutes, Two Strangers Trying Not to Kill Each Other opens at Quad Cinema via Juno Films. It would be an interesting double feature with The Eternal Memory, Ordinary Love, Shirley Valentine and Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?.
Number of times I checked my watch: 1